The Weight of Worries

A few weeks ago I watched a video, now stupidly I (due to being in bed & snoozy at the time) I didn't save the link for reference...

h o w e v e r . . .

... fortunately it stuck with me because it has basically changed my way of thinking & I've already preached it to my besties - sorry for the repetition if you're reading this - What 'it' is, is a way to change the way you look at your worries, a physical way to see them & feel them as a weight. 

If you know me you'll know I'm the worlds best worrier, apparently my brain can't get enough of it! Joy. 

So it was a great pleasure & relief to have a change of perspective thrown my way...

I won't keep the drums rolling any longer:

Imagine your holding a glass of water? 

It's a full glass & you pick it up, take a sip & put it back down. 

Now, you had no trouble holding/picking up that glass did you? 

No because it wasn't heavy was it? 

No. Ok good... Now imagine holding that glass for lets say 5 minutes straight? 

Does it feel heavier now? 

Yes, it feels a bit heavier now.

Factually speaking, has the weight of the glass changed since you picked it up for that first sip?

No it still weighs the same. 

Great, now hold the glass for a few days, weeks or even months? 

Is it hard to do that? Impossible.

Why? Because the glass is getting heavier and I've got shit to get done!

But is it heavier? 

Well no, I guess it scientifically isn't gaining weight. 

Correct, so it has't gained wait since you've had it but it's got heavier while you've held it?

hmmm

Now, let the glass go.

Is that better? 

Yaaaaaaaaaas!!

OK PEOPLE you get the point... you can probably guess where I'm going.

Change the glass of water to something you are worrying about? When it first became a worry it was small. You've done nothing different accept hold onto it for longer, like the glass the worry gets heavier with out it actually changing. 

For me that was the light bulb moment & it's silly because my beautiful sister has always said: 

'you cannot control the uncontrollable so if it is out of your control then it cannot be changed therefore don't waste your energy worrying about it'

Or something like that. She is right & this is true.We all hold on to our worries for so long they consume out spare thoughts, down time & take over our lovely brains but they never change until we do something about them. Until we make the conscious effort to act on it & physically change it or let it go because acting on it isn't in our control. 

B O O M !

Let it go because it's still as big as it was & always as big as it will be. 

I'm going to leave it there & let that sink in.

I'd love to know if you have any other ways you deal with stress and worries? 

What was your light bulb moment? 

Get involved in the convo in the comments or let me know on Insta. 

Check out my previous post on managing stress here.

That's all for now beauties. 

Thanks for reading!

Mucho Love,

Liv. 

♥

Welcome 2016...

W E L C O M E  2 0 1 6 ! ! ! 

Happy New Year to you all!

2015 gave me lots of ups, downs, opportunities, trials, tests and great memories and I already know 2016 is going to be a big one. 

I already know 2016 has a tone of scarey moments and tests in store for me and my family, but with that in mind I've decided 2016 is going to be the time for me to make my own luck and start doing things for me, I am going to put the time into this blog, I am going to start my youtube channel and I am going to invest in my relationships. My friends, family and Mr J are my priority and I am going to strive to make them happy to entail make myself happy with them. 

I also intend to carry on with my balanced lifestyle when it comes to food and exercise, this is in no way 'new year, new me' because I've got a few of those T-shirts from previous January's and they have a tendency to shrink - if you catch my drift.

 The tail end of 2015 brought me yoga at home through Yoga with Adriene and her 30 days of Yoga, I absolutely love it. I can really notice if I haven't practised it for a few days, so my routine is to do a video before work 3-5 days a week (preferably 5 but it's not alwayssss doable...AKA me sleepy). It is a fantastic way to start the day, it takes away any stresses lingering from the previous day and also releases endorphins which in turn make you feel happy. Oh and the obvious plus, it's exercise which makes you toned, flexible and helps relieve muscle tension. WOOP!  

My Goal for this year is happiness & hard work paying off!

I hope you're all with me in the challenge to kick 2015's ass and make 2016 a beautiful year, no matter what it throws at us. Insert bicep & lady with sassy arm up emoji's.

What are you're goals for 2016?
How're you going to make this a year you're proud of?
Let me know of any other Yoga channels you can recommend?
Let me know in the comments.

That's all for now beauties. 

Mucho Love,

Liv
♥

House to Home

October 20th marked a year of me living in the fine city of Norwich which I now call my home. 

What a year it's been, we've made our house this beautiful place to live, we have a purdy little kitty and I'm in a job which I have made amazing friends through and don't dread getting up for, yeah it's not my life on aspirational job but it's nice for now, do the boring grown up stuff and still have the fun 20 something year olds are meant to have. 

Life's pretty good right now.

When I moved in with Mr J our house was a small building site as the water tank had leaked while he was away on a work trip and caused a lot of damage to call of the floors and walls.
A year down the line we have managed to take the house and turn it into our lovely first home. 

I will take lots of lovely shots of each room when they are all completely finished but for now I leave you with a few snippets of my favourite parts of our house, the parts I feel make it a home. 

What we've done so far:
- Re-plastered all the walls and skimmed the ceilings once they were dry that is.
- Painted every room bar the bathroom (which is in working progress as I type).
- Stripped the floors in the upstairs bedrooms and reclaimed the original floorboards to a dark stained wood. We intend to do this down stairs too with the goal to get it done before christmas.
- Painted all the cupboards in our kitchen from a dated fake wood to a matte off white to create the feel of more space.

- Made our own furniture, inspo taken from a amazing website called Ikea Hackers which gave interesting idea's using affordable Ikea furniture  (and other bits and bobs) and turning them into one of a kind pieces. So far we have made a tv stand/cabinet out of Ikea kitchen cabinets and a coffee table from a old pallet. Check it out here.

So with winter knocking at the door and autumn sprinting past quicker than I can get out of bed okay so that's not very quick I feel it's time to get my boots on and kick around in some beautiful leaves or something along those lines.

So on that note I'll leave you with a beautiful picture of St John's College in Cambridge my visit a few weeks ago.

I know it's not topical to my home post but it is very pretty.

That's all for now beauties. 

Mucho Love,  

Liv
<3

Time for a Re-Vamp

So my lovely little blog has had a makeover!

I'm really happy with the final out come, thanks to my clever man Mr J!

Fresh, clean, minimal and stops me & you  from getting distracted by the rest of our fast paced world.

My little tranquil space to say hey, express my opinions and get to know myself and with you joining me along for the ride.

I hope you like the new look as much as I do, it's been as investment of time and a few pennies but I think it is definitely worth it.

That's all for now beauties,
Mucho love,
Liv.
<3

So recently...

It's been a long crazy, amazing, beautiful summer...

However, it's come at the cost of neglecting you lovely lot and little space on the net my blog. 

For that I apologise. Truly, deeply, I do. 

I am sorry. 

So let's get up to date with one another and then we'll get back into the swing of blogging. 

My summer...lots has happened and changed for me. I've got a new job, I've been on holiday, I've got more inspired and best of all...

I GOT A KITTEN!!!

If you knew me better, you'd know how long I've been begging Mr J for a little kitty and how much I love my teenie beaut.

Kitten facts:

• Breed: British blue shorthair cross with Persian (her dad was 1/2 and half and mum was tortoiseshell British blue) 
• Name: Blu
• DOB: 20/07/2015
• Weight: 1.17kg
• Eye colour: Currently between a green and mustard, we are thinking they'll get fairly bright but time will tell. 
• Cuteness: Off the scale 

Holiday deets: 

• Where: Majorca 
• With: Mr J and 4 other amazing friends both couples 
• Accommodation: Amazing villa in the mountains of Alcudia
• Duration: 10 days
• Snaps: 

Now we are up to date, the next post will be more beauty, lifestyle or fashion related, as you can tell I've not written it yet. 

That's all for now beauties. 

Mucho love, 

Liv.

❤️